
Understanding Grief. Honouring Loss. Supporting Growth.
Specialist Bereavement, Grief & Loss Support for Autistic and Neurodivergent Individuals

Autism | Neurodivergent Types & Bereavement
Grief is a natural human response to loss, yet autistic and neurodivergent individuals often experience bereavement differently and can face additional barriers in understanding, expressing, and processing grief.
Loss on the Spectrum is a specialist support service developed by Brothers Autism Social Enterprise CIC (BASE), providing compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming support for aautistic and neurodivergent late-teens and adults (16+) experiencing bereavement, grief, significant loss, or major life transitions who would benefit from structured, neurodiversity-affirming support.
Led by David McLaughlin (BSc, MA., PG.Dip) Founder and Director of BASE and a final-year PhD candidate specialising in Autism and Bereavement, the service combines academic research, professional experience, contemporary bereavement theory, and lived understanding to provide meaningful, personalised support during some of life's most difficult moments.

Individual Bereavement Support
Every person's experience of grief is unique. Support is tailored to the individual and delivered within a safe, respectful, and understanding environment.
Support is available for autistic and neurodivergent individuals experiencing:
Bereavement Following the Death of a Loved One
Supporting individuals to understand grief reactions, navigate change, process emotions, and develop practical coping strategies following bereavement.
Anticipatory Grief
Supporting individuals preparing for the expected loss of someone close through illness, end-of-life care, or degenerative conditions.
Sudden, Unexpected or Traumatic Loss
Providing structured support following sudden bereavement, accidents, suicide, traumatic events, or unexpected family loss.
Complicated or Prolonged Grief
Supporting individuals who continue to experience significant difficulties adjusting following bereavement and who may feel "stuck" in the grieving process.
Disenfranchised Grief
Recognising losses that are often overlooked or misunderstood by others, including:
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Friendship loss
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Family estrangement
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Relationship breakdown
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Loss of community
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Loss of identity
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Significant life transitions
Loss, Change and Transition
Support is also available for individuals experiencing:
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Family separation
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Relationship breakdown
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Loss of routine
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Educational transitions
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Employment changes
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Major life adjustments
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Feelings of loneliness, confusion, or isolation
Understanding Neurodivergent Grief
Emerging research and lived experience suggest that autistic and neurodivergent individuals may experience and express grief differently from neurotypical expectations.
This may include:
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Delayed grief responses
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Difficulties identifying or expressing emotions
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Increased anxiety or overwhelm
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Changes in behaviour or routines
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Heightened sensory sensitivities
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Communication differences
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Intense focus on practical details
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Challenges understanding social expectations around death and mourning
Loss on the Spectrum recognises and respects these differences without pathologising them.
There is no "right" way to grieve.
Our Support Approach
David provides specialist bereavement mentoring and support informed by:
Autism-Affirming Practice
Recognising and respecting neurodivergent experiences of grief without attempting to change or normalise individual responses.
Developmental Psychology
Drawing on the work of John Bowlby and attachment theory, recognising the importance of relationships, connection, loss, and emotional security throughout life.
Meaning-Making & Continuing Bonds
Supporting individuals to develop healthy ways of remembering, honouring, and maintaining connections with those they have lost.
Neurodiversity-Informed Support
Understanding that grief may present through communication differences, behaviour changes, sensory responses, emotional overwhelm, or changes in routine.
Personalised Bereavement Support Framework
David works collaboratively with each individual to develop a tailored support approach that may include:
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Understanding grief reactions
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Exploring emotional experiences
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Building resilience and coping strategies
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Managing uncertainty and change
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Developing practical supports
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Reducing isolation
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Strengthening self-understanding
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Creating meaning following loss
Support Options
Free Initial Consultation
A free online consultation provides an opportunity to discuss your circumstances, explore support options, and determine whether Loss on the Spectrum is right for you.
Individual Support Session
1 x 60-minute session – £80
Bereavement Support Package(s)
5 x 60-minute sessions – £380
10 x 60-minute sessions – £720
Sessions are available online [*with in-person support potentially available by specialised arrangement only]
Who Can Access Support?
Referrals and enquiries are welcomed from:
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Self-referrals
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Parents and family members
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Carers and support workers
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Schools and colleges
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Universities
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Healthcare professionals
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Social workers and key workers
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Community organisations
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Charities and voluntary groups
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Mental health and wellbeing services
Research-Led. Structured. Neurodiversity-Affirming.
The Loss on the Spectrum Framework
Unlike many traditional bereavement approaches, Loss on the Spectrum recognises that autistic and neurodivergent individuals may experience, process, and express grief differently.
Drawing upon contemporary bereavement research, developmental psychology, lived experience, and my current PhD research investigating bereavement among autistic adults, this framework provides structured and personalised support designed specifically for neurodivergent individuals.
Rather than expecting individuals to navigate grief through abstract discussion alone, support is delivered through a tailored framework that combines reflection, practical strategies, structured activities, and guided exploration at a pace that is comfortable and manageable for the individual.
Foundations of the Framework
💛 Attachment & Loss
Drawing upon John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, we explore the impact of losing important relationships, routines, environments, identities, and sources of emotional security.
💚 Structure & Cognitive Scaffolding
Using principles informed by Lev Vygotsky's concept of scaffolding and the Zone of Proximal Development, support is carefully structured and adapted to the individual's communication style, processing needs, and pace.
💙 Understanding Neurodivergent Grief
Recognising that autistic and neurodivergent people may experience grief differently, with support tailored to sensory, cognitive, emotional, and communication differences.
💜 Meaning & Identity
Exploring how loss affects identity, purpose, belonging, and personal understanding.
🩷 Coping & Resilience
Developing practical tools and strategies that support emotional wellbeing, self-understanding, and day-to-day functioning.
🧡 Growth & Moving Forward
Supporting individuals to honour loss while developing confidence, hope, and purpose for the future.
What Support Looks Like
Each individual receives:
✅ A personalised support framework
✅ Structured weekly sessions
✅ Practical coping strategies
✅ Guided reflection activities
✅ A predictable and supportive approach
✅ Support tailored to their communication and processing style
Training, Consultancy & Speaking Engagements
Alongside individual support, David also provides specialist training, consultancy, and speaking engagements.
Bereavement Awareness Training
Supporting professionals, volunteers, families, and organisations to develop greater understanding of:
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Contemporary grief theory
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Anticipatory grief
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Disenfranchised grief
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Complicated grief
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Sudden and traumatic loss
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Meaning-making and resilience
Autism, Neurodivergence & Grief
Specialist training exploring:
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Autism and bereavement
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ADHD and grief
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Learning disabilities and loss
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Communication and emotional expression
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Practical support strategies
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Neurodivergent experiences of grief
Consultancy Services
Supporting organisations to develop bereavement-informed and neurodiversity-informed practice through:
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Staff consultation
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Service reviews
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Policy development
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Programme design
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Community engagement initiatives
Conferences & Speaking Engagements
Available for:
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Conferences
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Workshops
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Professional development events
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Community presentations
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Universities and colleges
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Health and social care organisations
Topics include:
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Grief and bereavement
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Autism and loss
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Neurodivergence and grief
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Identity after loss
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Meaning, resilience, and post-traumatic growth
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Supporting bereaved autistic adults
Speaking engagements from £500 plus travel expenses.
About David McLaughlin
David McLaughlin is Founder and Director of Brothers Autism Social Enterprise CIC (BASE), bringing over 20 years of professional experience across autism, neurodivergence, community development, secondary mental health, and wellbeing.
He holds a:
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BSc in Psychology
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MA in Childhood Cognitive Development
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Postgraduate Diploma in Autism Spectrum Disorders
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PhD candidate investigating the experiences of bereavement among autistic adults
Combining academic research, professional expertise, and lived experience, David provides specialist support that helps autistic and neurodivergent individuals navigate grief, loss, and life transitions with greater understanding, confidence, and self-compassion.
Contact
To discuss support, training, consultancy, or speaking engagements:
David McLaughlin
Founder & Director
Brothers Autism Social Enterprise CIC (BASE)
📧 david@brothersautism.co.uk
📞 07551 159 083
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